Icecream or I scream?
What do you normally do when you feel lonely? You try to cover up with plans, activities to entertain oneself? Or burry yourself in work? Or maybe have a glass of wine in the evening (every evening)? Or a chocholate or lots of icecream (or I scream of loneliness)? In other words, using stimuli and structure, to compensate the lack of meaningful relationships, authentic and heart to heart contact.
One way of looking at balance
What about times when you are bored? (whom gets bored these days anyway?) Maybe you look up familiar names in your agenda, whom are not really your friends, but you call them anyway to go out (quantity over quality). Or again burry yourself in work?
For a while this will give you a fake satisfaction that you are doing something. But not looking actually at the fact that you need proper stimulation.
And last, but not least, when there is less structure in your life (have a chaotic schedule), what do you normally do?
All the questions started with the actual need. What we usually see is the excess on the other side: too much structure (a rigid person), too many stimuli (maybe addictions, of all kinds), too much on the relationship side (codependence).
So when something is too much in your life, ask yourself : what do I lack? What do I compensate? And when you are honest with yourself, you will know what to do next 😊.
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RO